What do you want to be doing differently in three months? How will you get there? How will you know you have reached your goal?
As a Wellness Coach, I ask my clients many questions designed to help them narrow down the focus of their goals. I want them to find the motivation they need by believing they will see themselves accomplish their goal.
Embarking on a path to change can be exciting as well as overwhelming. When your goals feel more like dreams that you cannot catch and hold onto, try taking a step back and ask yourself, “Why is now the right time to make a change?” This answer becomes the foundation for a future vision of you and fuels your motivation.
Exploring these ideas is hard work and the journey can be quite insightful. That’s why I recommend keeping a journal where you can express yourself freely, play with new ideas and leave behind past anxiety or frustrations; whether pen to paper or an electronic format, your journal is your confidant and an unconditional listener. This tool is particularly helpful for those who consider themselves to be “emotional eaters”.
Can you see yourself writing in your journal? Maybe at first you are just recording your calories in and calories out. Then you start seeing patterns and setting goals. Then you examine roadblocks. One day, instead of eating a sleeve of crackers, you write out an angry letter to someone who hurt you. You write letters to yourself: past, present and future. You make notes before each meal about how hungry you are and your mood. Then ask yourself, “Am I hungry for this food right now?” You say exactly what you want and need to say in the moment.
A few minutes ago I went through my private journal and found a list I brainstormed in April 2010. I like making lists! I had asked myself, “What do I imagine I need or want now that will shape the person I want to become in the future? What is worthy of my energy and focus?” Here is what I wrote:
I want to move with ease and grace
I want to be a good friend
I want to be respected
I want to be generous and sincere
I want to be playful
I want to be independent
I want to be unique
I want to have a unique and distinct style of dress
I want to feel jazzy and sassy
I want to smell fresh air
I want to be smart
I want to be a source of nutritional info
I want to be a great coach
I want to be growing in my profession
I want to be a better cook
I want to learn how to make exotic dishes
I want to be intuitive
I want to know what I like
I need to find the music I like
I want to get up early in the morning
I want to read lots of books in a space I love
I want to be a creative and skilled gardener
I want to buy local
I want to minimize clutter
I want to throw away stuff I don’t need
I want to reshape my body with yoga
I want to be interesting
I want to wander in NYC
I want to breathe deeply often
I want to be mindful
I want to be in the present moment
I want to love myself and care for myself
I want to live
I want to be desirable.
I want to be someone other want to be around
I want others to depend on me
I want to be trusted
I want to be a confident
I want to surround myself with what makes me light up and shine.
I completely forgot about this list and it was important to find it for two reasons. I have been doing some of these things over the past few years. Being able to see that I put this intention into play is terrific feedback for me. And finding it means I can share with you one of my favorite journal entry formats.
Consider keeping a journal/diary, it is well worth the commitment and there is not right or wrong way to make entries. It is your creation with your voice and style. That’s powerful. Here is some more information about journal writing:
Guest Blogger Sheri Iodice is a registered dietitian and wellness coach for the online publisher EverydayHealth.com and its calorie counter tool, which emphasizes recording your calories for healthy living and weight loss success.